Your liberation, and the liberation of your loved ones, comes from re-associating love with freedom and joy, and not with "be what I want you to be so that I can feel love for you".
A person who is starving will put any morsel they can into their mouth. A person who is nourished will be more picky, and only choose what they enjoy. If you can approach life predominantly from the latter perspective, you will experience more of what you want and less of what you settle for.
Book Yourself Solid by Michael Port is a about creating a business building system that helps you book more clients, earn more referrals, and build profitable, long-lasting professional relationships