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The Process Of Betterment

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The Process Of Betterment9 min read

Life often throws curveballs our way, but what if these challenging emotions and experiences were actually guiding us towards a more fulfilling existence? These challenges first bring to light the aspects of our lives or selves that may be causing unhappiness or dissatisfaction. In this way, they serve as a wake-up call, prompting us to reassess our current path and make the necessary adjustments to align ourselves with a more fulfilling and satisfying trajectory.

In this sense, challenging emotions can indeed be seen as a compass, guiding us away from the things and situations we don’t want to be around, and towards a happier and more authentic existence. By learning to understand these emotions and the lessons they bring, we empower ourselves to continuously evolve and thrive in our ever-changing world. Let’s explore how embracing difficult emotions can act as catalysts for change and lead to personal growth and a happier life.

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photo by Suzanne D. Williams

Catalysing Change

Life consistently presents us with situations that force us to confront aspects of ourselves or our lives that may be causing dissatisfaction. Our aim is to acknowledge these challenges as they are without complicating them nor ignoring them, and acknowledge the emotions they evoke rather than sweep them away. This is how we open ourselves up to those opportunities for growth and transformation.

Our emotional state is persistently revealing to us how much we desire or don’t desire what we’re focused on, and our only logical action is to find a way to adjust our focus or find a way to bring more of our desires into what we’re focused on. Instead of suppressing or avoiding negative emotions, listen to what they are telling you.

What we are calling negative and positive emotions are a relative scale. Anger feels negative to someone who is happier but anger feels more positive to someone who is depressed. You need to determine for yourself whether what you’re feeling is more negative or more positive than what you were feeling, and whether to increase that momentum or stunt it.

Allowing ourselves to feel these emotions help us identify areas in our lives that need attention and encourage us to seek support or make positive changes. By leaning into challenging emotions, we can unlock our inner resilience and strengthen our ability to adapt to life’s ups and downs. All of this requires an improved upon emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and understand our emotions. Good feeling emotions indicate that what we’re focused on is something we approve of and appreciate experiencing. Bad feeling emotions indicate that what we’re focused on is something we would prefer not experiencing. Instead of good and bad, let’s look at our emotions as guiding us to what we want or away from what we don’t want. The work we all have to do is determine whether what we are feeling is good or bad relative to what we want to be feeling. In other words, are we right now focused on the path towards our goals or away from them, relative to the topic we are focused on.

As you can gather, this gets more nuanced, but by cultivating emotional intelligence, we can better manage difficult situations, communicate more effectively with ourselves and with others, and make more informed decisions for our benefit. Embracing challenging emotions and learning from them is a key component of developing emotional intelligence, ultimately leading to more authentic connections and greater well-being.

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photo by Ramon Kagie

Navigating Life

Indeed, striving for a virtuous life doesn’t have to be a dreary, arduous journey. By reframing virtues in a positive light and pairing them with empowering habits, we can cultivate an uplifting and increasingly rewarding path to self-improvement and fulfilment. Embracing this perspective can make the pursuit of a more pious life not just meaningful, but also joyous and enriching.

There are several virtues that require discipline to be improved upon. Pairing them with more positive habits, we are able to create a more balanced and harmonious approach to life.

Perseverance is the ability to keep going. It’s about having stamina and persistence and the wherewithal to never give up on your goal. No matter how many times you fail, you dust yourself off, learn from the mistakes made, adjust your plan, and try again until you succeed. The discipline required for perseverance can be paired with the positive habit of cultivating resilience and adaptability. Understanding that one needs to adapt constantly to an ever changing universe, we can learn to let go off the way things are in the pursuit of new ways of being, and new ways of doing things. This approach enables us to better overcome obstacles and even thrive in the face of adversity.

Honesty is a vital discipline in the journey of empowerment, especially since we have been raised in a society that thrives on dishonesty and using others for the sake of making money and achieving power. The most valuable aspect of this discipline is being honest with oneself. This means stop pretending and lying to yourself about things that are important to you. Acknowledge your flaws and your blindspots and your ignorance and your dysfunctions. Acknowledge that you, like every other human, are not perfect and you have fucked up and will continue to fuck up. For as long as you are growing and evolving, you will fuck up and, hopefully, live long enough to learn from your fuck ups. Honest interactions with others and with yourself can be enhanced by practicing open communication and active listening, fostering trust and understanding in your relationships.

Courage is often overlooked in how much a part it plays in all our lives. The courage it takes to confront one’s fears in a society that preys on one’s fears is huge. To be able to allow yourself to be more free when we are raised in systems that encourage competition and control is one of the more powerful tools you can have in the adventure of embetterment. Embracing vulnerability allows us to grow and connect more deeply with ourselves and with others, too.

Generosity comes from having more than enough, and having more than enough comes from an attitude of abundance. The discipline of practicing generosity comes naturally when one has been regularly practicing the positive habits of appreciation and living with a strong sense of gratitude. The more we fill our lives up, the more we have to offer others. It is a little ironic but in seeking for love or anything else, we wind up living a life lacking in love or whatever else it is we are seeking. On the flip side, when we appreciate what we already have, and seek to increase the love and prosperity and happiness in our lives instead of searching for them, we are progressively lead to a more abundant and fulfilling life.

Forgiveness is another powerful discipline to foster on this journey. For us to get to the space where we can forgive and let go of the negative emotions associated with a situation or a person’s actions, we must practice compassion and empathy, positive habits that can release one from the burdens of resentment and anger. These habits are for our betterment more so than the persons or circumstances we feel have wronged us. It is about us raising above those situations, growing up and becoming the people who won’t be taken advantage of in that way again. We grow easier by letting go of those tendrils of emotional stuckness that hold us back. To forgive is that process.

Life’s challenges and the emotions they evoke can serve as powerful tools for growth and transformation, leading us naturally down that path to being our most real selves. By acknowledging and embracing difficult emotions, we can navigate life with greater emotional intelligence, and create a more fulfilling and authentic existence. So the next time life presents you with a challenge, remember to view it as an opportunity to learn and grow, and let it guide you toward a happier and more fulfilling life.

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