Throughout your life you have been mentally creating a best version of yourself and best version of your life. It might be time to prioritise that version.
Your liberation, and the liberation of your loved ones, comes from re-associating love with freedom and joy, and not with "be what I want you to be so that I can feel love for you".
The gurus and coaches and inspirers around the world inevitably talk about the power of gratitude, of appreciation, of being thankful. A simple and powerful attitude.